Why I Don’t Do Soulmate / Twin Flame Readings.

Soulmate and Twin Flame Tarot readings are in high demand all around! I could bet an arm that every single reader has at one point or another been asked a question involving a soulmate relationship. I certainly have, and it’s not my jam.

Why refusing to read on such an extended topic as soulmate connections seem to be? I am in a difficult position here, my views are not very popular and sometimes even I can’t fully explain what goes on in my head when it comes to soulmates!

1. The Concept Of Soulmates Is Widely Misunderstood. 

It is an extended belief that “soulmate” equals “meant to be” no matter what, and more often than not, it’s not the case.

Mint to be!

2. It Enables Toxic Or Damaging Relationships. 

This goes by hand with the statement above. The extended confusion about the implications of a soulmate is often an excuse to cling on a poor, soul-sucking relationship in the name of true love. This hurts the person that pursues the relationship and as well, hurts the object of their interest, for it is very easy to fall into stalker-ish behaviours and lose the North a bit.


3. There’s Not Meant To Be When It Comes To Love. 

Meeting a person or crossing paths with someone might be meant to be. Building a life with someone is not. There is a natural compatibility that helps, but love has always been in my experience a choice. You may not choose who you fall in love with, but you can damn sure choose whether or not you’re going to act on it. And you most definitely choose to stay in love with that person, and to work through crap, and to grow with them. The same way making children is free and maintaining them is not, falling in love is free, but a relationship takes mutual work.


4. It Diminishes Yourself.

Specially with the whole Twin Flame thing. What’s that about a chaser and a runner? What’s wrong with the idea that you are in the moment of separation? I most definitely have never been asked for a reading by one of said “runners” that are supposedly a part of the Twin Flame combo. Just nope. Cringing hard.


5. It Diminishes Your Partner. 

As I’ve written before, what’s the value of being stuck with someone just because it’s been set beforehand? What if your perfectly right partner is not your soulmate? Does it make them a step below? It’s just unnecessary.

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6. Two Whole Individuals Are Definitely More Than Two Halves.

You’re not furniture from Ikea. Each person is already a whole thing, and there’s no need to be searching for missing parts as if love was Ikea’s warehouse.


7. It Just Doesn’t Matter.

At the end of the day, if you are in a healthy, good and happy relationship, who cares? If today you were told that your partner is not your soulmate, would you leave them? I would certainly not. There’s nothing greater than knowing that the person besides you is there because they make a conscious choice to do so every single day, not because they can’t help it, don’t you think?


Mia Alviz

My name is Mia Alviz and I declare myself "tarobsessed". I live in Spain, from where I make a living out of my passion: Tarot. With a taste for traditional European divination and crystal healing, my aim as a professional is to provide my querents with honest, meaningful and empowering insight as well as building a legacy into the Tarot Community.

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